When was the last time you felt comfortable asking someone for anything . . . for advice, for help, or even for directions?  Asking for what we want whether its help, advice, wisdom, guidance, or information can start us on a new adventure especially information. It was the information on a sign that led me to a delightful new coffee bar while I was leisurely strolling down 5th Avenue in San Diego and I stopped to enjoy a delicious glass of iced café latte’ and sat at  an outdoor table, shaded by a bright red and white stripped umbrella, surrounded by charming white pots of geraniums and every few minutes I peaked with pleasure into my shopping bag to admire the new summer outfit that I had just purchased. 

The best thing about this adventure was that the outfit I bought passed the I am not a trash can test . . .  meaning it looked great, I wanted it, I didn’t just like it I loved it and myself in it, I felt wonderful in it, they were on sale, and I their was no ones critical voice  . . . not even mine criticizing me. Now that’s freedom!

As I finished my delicious drink I started my stroll back to where I was staying when I noticed a women who just by looking at her I could tell that she possessed a sure sense of style . . . she looked terrific, you know the kind, the ones who can pull off wearing a burlap bag. Well she gave me a condescending glance and I smiled at her and said, hello to her and her whole facial expression changed as she said hello back to me with a smile on her face and then I asked her for directions and complimented her on her outfit.

She was gracious and helpful and I was happy because I didn’t allow myself to feel less than her. I just appreciated being me . . . and I didn’t allow any thoughts to put me in the trash can. Have fun being you and stay out of the trash can.