Love is like a garden and unless you tend to it, you’ll never reap the full rewards that it brings. The ground needs to be tilled with kindness, because if is too hard, love’s seed can’t spout up. The seeds have to be planted with care if they are to penetrate your heart. Love needs to be watered with kind words and compliments.
Love longs for your undivided attention just as the weeds of pettiness and lies must be pulled from the field of love. The fruits of love need time to grow and cannot be picked until they are ripe. If you don’t put the required effort into your garden of love, you can be certain that the weeds will invade and your garden will yield little in the way of love. But if you work at it, you’ll find a bumper crop of love waiting for you to harvest everyday.
When you’re in love, every day should be considered memorable: every good-morning kiss, every hug, every caress, every cuddle. They could be considered seeds that you plant in your garden of love. Your precious minutes spent together on earth are not so easily held onto. A walk down the aisle, that period of tropical bliss you call your honeymoon, your toddlers first steps, or a family vacation may stand out in your memories.
Even if you can’t remember every time you do something together it, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t act like you will. The two of you will experience thousands of events together and they can’t all stick out in your mind, but you can learn to enjoy those moments more by putting more of yourself into each and every shared moment, they’ll mean so much more to you when they’re occurring. Stop kissing perfunctorily and put some passion into each kiss. Look your sweetheart in their eyes and mean it when you say “I love you.” At the end of the day, your memory banks may not be any fuller, but your love will be a lot stronger. You’re not a trash can you deserve someone who looks into your eyes everyday and says, “I love you” and treats you with respect and kindness.