An authentic voice is when we are being 100 per cent ourselves, without fear or reservation. Think about the person you are when you are with your friends, spouse, or your children, and your family. Are you consistently the same or do you change according to who your audience is or how they respond? Have you discovered your authentic voice? Think of how you speak on the phone, the voice you use when you are typing an email, or the words you chose when telling a story at the dinner table. Have you ever tried journeying? Or maybe you’re a blogger who hasn’t found your voice yet. If so try this little exercise. Think of a memory or story now call your mom or best friend and tell them the story.
You can start out by saying. “Hey, remember when. . . ? Or, “Did I ever tell you the story about the time . . .? Once you finish the conversation, write it down in your journal or on your blog and as you are writing say it to yourself without any fear or reservation and when you are finished ask yourself if the voice in which you just told the story matches the voice in which the story is written. If they match great! You have just used your authentic voice. If they’re quite different, well, read on!
There is no better place to start getting to the authentic heart of your story than with your own blog entries and the nice thing about using a blog is that you can write in a timely manner while topics are still fresh on your mind and the true emotion is there. Many bloggers use events as starting points for writing or journeying. Such as a wedding anniversary.
For example I read a story on a blog about a woman who wrote about the night her husband proposed to her and how it took her fifteen years to feel brave enough to write him a love letter. I applaud her for being brave and taking an opportunity to write from her heart using her authentic voice. Her story reminding all of us that we don’t always get do overs and second chances. Some don’t get fifteen years with the love of their lives . So write from your heart and use your authentic voice . . . and be real.
Great friends are hard to find, harder to hang on to and the hardest to let go of. So hold on to them for dear life. They are a priceless treasure. The times when you ride high and the times you sink to your lowest their friendship is like elastic that snaps back to center. They understand that when you have a problem that you don’t want a solution, advice or even sympathy. You need someone to listen. They are your lighthouse in a storm. They guide your through treacherous seas and light the way for your voyage home.
They are the kind of friend who is honest enough to warn you when you are about to make a big mistake and kind enough not to tease you when you make it anyway. Isn’t it funny how two ordinary people can find in each other such and extraordinary friendship? Make sure that you thank them for the times they’ve gently told you that you might want to look at something another way. Their tact and honesty make their advice worth listening to. If they could reach the stars, they’d bring one down for you. People aren’t as loyal as they use to be and that’s just another reason to be grateful for your extraordinary friend. If there is anyone in your life who treats you like a trash can you don’t need them.
The following is a list of people you should not hook up with:
- Those who think you are their problem.
- Those that don’t value what you consider important.
- Those who are not teachable.
- Those who ignore your wants.
- Those who weaken your faith.
- Those who hate what you love.
Here is a list of 5 principles of Relationships
- Your friends affect your future.
- Every relationship is either a weed or a flower.
- Every relationship you have is either a weakness or a strength.
- Every relationship you have is a current that sweeps you towards your destiny or moves you away from it.
- Your relationship should expand your vision of your future not keep you in the past.
The life you are living today is the result of a conversation you had yesterday. Your conversation reveals whether you are a winner or a loser.
- A loser majors on problems and a winner majors on possibilities.
- A loser discusses obstacles and a winner talks about opportunities.
- A loser talks about disease and a winner talks about health.
- A loser thinks like a victim and a winner talks like a victor.
Do you know who you really are? I can tell you this much . . . you are not a trash can!